Dear Practical LOA #12
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Dear PLOA: What I do NOT want follows me
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Have you ever made a decision not to do or have anything anymore…then the next thing you know you’re bombarded with opportunities to have it?
You decide not to have dessert anymore, and then all of the sudden there’s a dessert menu everywhere you look. Or you decide not to watch TV for a month so you can focus on your new business and all of the sudden amazing new TV shows are playing?
Today’s Dear Practical LOA letter deals with exactly that:
“Hi, Kane!
I have a question about something that happens to me every time I set an intention to get something I desire into my life and I feel the feelings I already feel about that future goal. In this particular case, I've set an intention to attract my soul mate/perfect partner into my life. As never before, I feel nothing else would be more fulfilling than being in a committed relationship. Previously, I had a number of hookups with other men. I would consistently date men and relationships that went nowhere. I spent years in which I felt that it was all I could expect was to hookup with men and get closeness that way.
What has happened recently is that, as I've been really living in my desire for a committed relationship and I'm no longer interested in hooking up, I've recently had contact from men who I hooked up with, having heard from in a long time, and are insistent about me hooking up with them.
My question is why is this happening when I haven't wanted that in several weeks? It puzzles me.
Thank you,
[XXXXXX]”
Hi [XXXXXX],
Great question. We all go through this and it can be incredibly confusing and frustrating. There are several different reasons this happens, but I will go over 3 specific ones.
1) There is a time delay between when we make a decision and change our vibration and when opportunities arise in our physical reality. So once we make a decision, old manifestations that were super close to fruition may still trickle in.
2) Any time we make a decision, we are presented with many opportunities, including the opposite of what we want.
This allows us the opportunity to change our minds, and at the same time tests the conviction of our decisions.
If we simply roll over at the weakest manifestation of the opposite of what we want, then we didn't really decide or want what we said we wanted. The more we are tested and pass the tests, the stronger our conviction and the closer we get to what we want.
There is a similar effect to what you described in that once we find a partner, all of the sudden an abundance of potential mates show up... But if we indulge in any of them, we lose the one we have.
Conviction and integrity. Both will be tested all the time. And when it becomes easy to thwart any temptation, we will have truly grown and we are rewarded for it.
Much like an alcoholic may find it nearly impossible to resist alcohol when he first quits, but years later, while he still feels the allure, it's easy for him to say no.
3) Since you are talking specifically about old hook ups, they are likely feeling your energetic withdrawal from them. Even if we haven't seen them for a long time, a part of our energy stays and sometimes supports people we have shared experiences with.
Some people feed off of these connections and feel it immediately when it is withdrawn. They will suddenly pop back into our lives, seeking to reestablish that energetic line if it is taken away.
It's a good that this is happening. It indicates that you truly have made a decision, and ultimately it's healthier for you and them that that line is severed.
Hope that helps!
Kane
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