Dear Practical LOA #17
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Dear PLOA: You see this advice everywhere.. this is when to IGNORE it
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You should always frame things in the positive, especially your goals, dreams, and mantras.
I’m sure you’ve heard that.
It’s one of the most common pieces of advice given to students of the Law of Attraction.
But it’s flat out WRONG.
At least sometimes.
That’s the challenge when coming up with “rules” or blanket statements that contain words like “always” and sometimes.
If you’re like our Practical LOA family member from France, you may have gotten confused by Monday’s email and my mantra, “Hello, my name is Kane Shieh and I’ve never had a bad day!”
Our family member from France writes:
“Bonjour kane, i like your mantra … but why don't you choose affirming in a positive form .. For exemple: "i have ALLWAYS had a NICE day" instead of beiing in the negative gramatical form, as some coach advice not to use in affirmations… according coaches theses "never" and"bad" i mean their presence in the sentence, put them in our subsconcious and suppose that paradoxicaly, this bad day could happen.”
Did I majorly goof?
Shouldn’t it be “Hello, my name is Kane and I always have a great day!”
Let’s find out:
Hi [XXXXXX],
Very good question! Thanks for asking.
It is true that the unconscious minds do not work in the negative, so it is usually preferable to couch things in the positive. Otherwise our minds are always processing what we do not want rather than what we want.
However, this particular mantra is for an aware and conscious mind, not the unconscious mind.
It is a reminder that whenever we are tempted to think something is bad or take a negative viewpoint, to flip it around.
For example, if I get into a terrible car accident, placing it in the positive would be "Hey, I'm having a great day!"
This would ring very false to you and, like a hypnotic suggestion that goes against your principles, your mind would reject it.
Even worse than that, this type of behavior encourages denial.
But if I say, "I've never had a bad day," I remind myself that I can convert this into a positive experience. It does not have to end up in a negative direction.
So rather than deny that something prefer did not happen, I remind myself that even though something happened that I don't prefer, it can lead to something amazing that is ultimately better for me.
On the balance, I agree.
We should largely reach for creating positive thoughts and stating things in the positive when we are creating.
But we need tools to get us the rough periods that are the necessary feedback we need to learn, grow, and ultimately end up where we want to go.
Great question!
Kane
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